Is geen nieuws goed nieuws? Hoe om te gaan met doemscrollen
Jun 01, 2022

​In de hyperverbonden wereld van vandaag kun je je niet verbergen voor het nieuws. Het wacht overal op je, zodra je online gaat of de tv of radio aanzet. Tenzij je een kluizenaar bent die in een hut in het bos woont, zijn we allemaal - in meer of mindere mate - het slachtoffer van 24-uurs nieuws. Dit kan snel ontaarden in doemscrollen - een constante consumptie van steeds meer slecht nieuws waardoor je mentaal uitgeput en volledig overweldigd wordt. In deze blog kijken we naar eenvoudige manieren om zelfs op de meest turbulente dagen een beter evenwicht en innerlijke kracht te vinden.


Omgaan met situaties waar je geen controle over hebt


Psychologen zeggen dat het absoluut normaal is om paniek te ervaren, zelfbeheersing te verliezen en een gevoel van verdriet te voelen over de dingen die in de wereld om ons heen gebeuren. Maar als ze je verlammen om in je eigen leven te functioneren, moet je kijken naar manieren om deze gevoelens effectiever te beheersen. Een van de eenvoudigste vragen om te stellen is: ‘Wat kan ik doen om deze situatie te veranderen of te beïnvloeden?’ Soms is het antwoord op deze grote vraag ‘niets’. Het eerste deel van het omgaan met een intense betrokkenheid bij negatief nieuws is dit feit te accepteren en jezelf toe te staan een deel van het schuldgevoel los te laten dat hand in hand kan gaan met doemscrollen.

Herbedrading van je hersenen


Onze hersenen kunnen snel verslaafd raken aan slecht of eng nieuws en het is belangrijk om de activiteit die verband houdt met dit soort nieuws te beperken en ervoor te zorgen dat je tijd besteedt aan andere, positievere activiteiten. Misschien pak je dat renovatieproject op waar je het al maanden over hebt, begin je aan een nieuwe trainingsroutine, doe je vrijwilligerswerk of breng je tijd door met familie, vrienden of huisdieren. De activiteit kan van alles zijn, maar het zou je weg moeten halen van een scherm en weg van rollende nieuwsfeeds. Dit betekent niet dat je alle nieuwsconsumptie moet opgeven, maar het betekent wel dat je de rest van je tijd moet besteden aan positievere activiteiten.

Online limieten instellen


Hoe lang zit je per dag op je telefoon? Echt? Telefoonverslaving is echt en het raakt meer van ons dan we misschien beseffen. Stel limieten in, gebruik online productiviteits-apps, leg je telefoon op bepaalde tijden in een la, doe wat je moet doen om je hersenen wat ademruimte te geven. Onthoud dat altijd en overal verbonden zijn met iedereen en alles, een heel nieuw fenomeen is en niet bijzonder gezond. Beperkingen op de schermtijd kunnen ons helpen om ons rustiger, gelukkiger en productiever te voelen.

Blijf kalm, ga door en leg je telefoon neer. Misschien zou dat onze mantra voor de jaren 20 moeten zijn...

14 Aug, 2023
Rephrasing the famous song, “Love is in the air”, let’s talk about change is in the air – and everywhere. We grow. We change. Look at your childhood photos. Watch your kid, your nephew, your niece. The change is there, and it’s incredible. Nature is constantly changing. We wait for summer as the time to enjoy outdoor activities and gardening, for a quick visit to the beach, or simply take time to relax and spend time with family, friends and loved ones. We wait for winter (even if we never see snow falling) to decorate the house for the holidays, pack presents for the people we love and unpack our own. The colour of the leaves changes, the weather shifts, and flowers blossom in their time – the landscape is constantly transforming. The world around us is changing. We travel to other countries and learn new things, cultures and languages. We take on new hobbies. We get new skills. After a couple of minor kitchen accidents (sometimes), we can cook delicious dishes and get compliments from family and friends. We transform our bodies at the gym or simply by creating the habit of walking every day. We meet new people, we sometimes fall in love, we build families, we have kids. And if you step back for a second, you realise you might have met your other half by pure accident. But you took a leap of faith into the unknown. We embrace many types of unknown change, except for the one that can change how we live five days a week – to change jobs. “I am too old/too young to change”, “I’m used to this environment; It’s my comfort zone”, “Well, I don’t get any promotion, and what I do doesn’t change the world, but it’s stable”, “I am afraid to ask for more interesting projects. What if my manager fires me?”. We often don’t want to change because that step requires a vision, courage, external support, and a leap of faith into the unknown. Scary? Yes. But also promising. A step into the unknown? Yes. But it can open a new door. Do your inner values marry what you do? Yes, it is essential. There is nothing terrible about staying in your comfort zone. At some stage of your career, staying put can be an excellent decision. But if you feel that you need a change – talk to Kelly. We don’t mind going the extra mile and support your wish to embrace the change. The one which will give meaning to what you do, feel proud, motivated and fulfilled. Ready for changing? We’ll make sure your talent can truly shine.
10 Aug, 2023
You’ve seen these guys before when a circus came to your city or maybe on TV. They walk on a wire at an impressive height, sometimes without insurance, sometimes with a long stick that probes the void right and left. They walk slowly, trying the wire with their toes first, making small steps, their eyes fixed on the small platform where they plan to land soon. They never watch down. They don’t listen to an audience that applauses or gasps in awe. They are concentrated on keeping their balance. To keep balance. Let’s come down from the wire above the arena or stage. Let’s look closer at balance, where it has its roots and the secrets of keeping it. Is it an art? Or is it a skill? Can you learn to keep balance? Or is it an innate skill that only gymnasts, figure skaters, circus artists and ballet dancers are born with? Want to know the secrets of a ballerina that must perform 32 fouettes, a complex ballet movement that requires turning 360 degrees at a high-speed standing on the point of a ballet shoe? First, keeping balance is a skill people must learn for years. In ballet, sport, circus, real life, and… work life. A ballerina is taught to pick one point and to fix her eyes on it when she makes her 32 fouettes, a complex ballet movement that requires turning 360 degrees at high-speed standing on the point of a ballet shoe. She focuses on one thing that keeps her upright. She doesn’t look anywhere else. Gymnasts in some disciplines are constantly trained to feel the bar under their feet. They are prepared to land precisely on the bar after they jump, and the incredible contortions we admire in competitions. But let’s come back to the circus artists we have begun with. Often, they have a long stick in their hands to keep their balance. Is their secret hidden in the stick? And what is the secret? You don’t need to be a ballet dancer, a gymnast, or a circus artist to get the idea of balance. Here are your first two steps in your balance training: 1. Keep your main priorities in mind. And have a clear idea about what is very important for you and where you are ready to compromise. But don’t listen to external opinions that don’t align with your ideals. Forget about the audience’s applause – focus on you. 2. Use some help to stay upright and get to your goals. Imagine your life split on two ends of the helping stick, your job is on one end, and your private life is on another. How comfortable do you feel at your height now with the load on both ends? You need support. We at Kelly pay a lot of attention to balance. The balance between people’s private lives and their jobs. The balance between feeling appreciated and professional goals or between achieving extraordinary results and being inspired. Talk to Kelly today. We are not ballet coaches or sports trainers, but we know much about how important work/life balance is in our lives.
03 Aug, 2023
We often associate certain qualities with individuals who seem to possess a natural talent for creativity. We convince ourselves that painting, singing, or dancing are pursuits reserved for these "real" artists while we remain mere spectators. Creativity? Inspiration? No, it's not about me.
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